Category Archives: Dating, Intimacy & Fertility

5 Years Ago – I Officially Got Cancer

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Five years ago today, I got the call. I was with my co-worker, standing in line at the post office, tucked inside the cellar of Macy’s department store in downtown San Francisco, waiting to ship materials for a leadership training that I was planning to lead in D.C. the following week. I was an ambitious 32-year-old […]

okFAIL – 50 Days Of Cuffing Season

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Fifty days was all it took to go from zero through blissful-online-then-in-person love to ‘Uh uh, this shit ain’t right.’ I’m sure that a younger and less cancerous version of me would have maybe made it through 500 Days Of Summer like Joseph Gordon-Levitt, but that would’ve been ten times longer – and that many […]

My Toxic Heart Monitor

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When my cardiologist first suggested that I wear a heart monitor for two weeks, I pushed back on the idea, saying that since my echocardiogram and EKG turned out OK, I was fine with those results and didn’t want to explore further. I’ve been like this throughout my health challenges. I didn’t want to carry […]

okCancer – Cuffing Season On The InterWebs

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Cuffing Season – when does it exactly end? Maybe on Valentine’s Day? … culminating in the offish Olympics of all dating games? If you don’t know, cuffing season happens in the Fall and Winter months, when outdoor temps drop and singles tend to get themselves a boothang at all costs to cuddle through the dreary days. […]

The Privilege of Motherhood – Happy Mother’s Day!

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When you’re a woman my age going through cancer treatment, you’re constantly asked at every visit if there’s any chance you might be pregnant, and regardless of your answer, they administer a pregnancy test. It seems these tests are given routinely before they proceed with almost anything – and each of my visits to the […]